It seems that everyone has an opinion. If my mom gets into a conversation with her eye doc, the dental hygienist, a niece who rarely visits or even grown children who rarely visit, EVERYONE has an opinion about how things should be. Mom is living independently and everyone thinks she would be better off in an elder care facility. She doesn't go out of her way to say that she is super happy, of course, because she has congestive heart failure and she is 92 years old, so life isn't perfect, but it seems to me that she is quite content most of the time. While I appreciate helpful information and references, it seems at times that people say to her she MUST live life the way they think is best, instead of according to her preferences. Since she is not strong, she doesn't argue and I just feel like she is being badgered inappropriately. If I'm not there, she just takes it all and seems to agree with anyone who is talking to her at the time. For example her eye doc thought she MUST have an iPad, and she agreed, even though she never goes on her desktop computer. We had talked about starting her on a Kindle, but once the eye doc got to her, she said that's a good idea. Other than being by her side 100% of the time, does anyone have suggestions about how to encourage people not to be so inappropriate with her? I have already suggested to her that she might start by saying she is OK with things and not be so agreeable to suggestions she ultimately will not do.