My partner and I took a two night stay in Dallas just to get away, relax and have some fun for a change. We paid for a sitter, had food cooked for both of them, brought back gifts for mom etc. just to find out my brother who I let know we were going called my mom asking questions about who paid for this. Her sister had the same questions. I get so tired of keeping every unneeded receipt so we can prove at the drop of the hat who paid for what. They don't seem to care when we show how much we have spent of our money on my mom but if I pick up her six boxes of cereal, 7 quarts of 12/12, her cigs and use her debit card I better not have a coke on the receipt I got at the checkout for me. It's gotten past ridiculous and caused an irreversible split in our family. We have gotten to the point we don't want to see any of my family other than my children and their family. We normally have a huge Halloween with lots of food etc. but making a point to have just enough for us with no invites to eat if any off the others show up....am I being a total A _ _ or just over it after caring for mom for 4.5 years? It might be different if they were helping out either by giving us a break or helping with her overages.