My estranged niece shows up at my Mom's (89) home to cause problems. I'm thinking of getting a restraining order is that possible?

Claudia333333, first so sorry about your loss regarding your sister.

When hospice is called in, part of hospice is to make the final days comfortable for the patient, and apparently the patient had a written directive saying not to extend her life, thus the reason for no food or water. The nurse cannot give anyone a shot unless the nurse feels it is time to give pain medication.

I don't understand about the *same blanket* or *same pajamas*. Or are you referencing that said items hadn't been washed, or that one needs to have more than one set of blankets or pajamas?

As others said above, need more information.

You're right, Jeanne. A restraining order is an order of protection. It goes on a person's record, so isn't granted lightly. There would have to be evidence that there is intent to harm or exploit based on history of the person or the relationship.

The part about hospice giving a shot is where I got stuck. We'll have to hear more about this. Does the granddaughter plan to abuse or steal from the woman? There's a lot missing here.

What kind of problems is she trying to cause? What has she done to your mother that would justify a restraining order. I've never taken one out, but I think it has to be more than "I don't want her around my mother." Would you be OK with the niece visiting in your presence? This is your mother's granddaughter, right? Would Mother like to see this woman?

I can understand that you don't like the decisions your niece made for her own mother, but presumably her mother gave her the power to act on her behalf. You are not talking about giving this person any power, right? So how would visiting her grandmother be a threat? You haven't even spoken to this woman since her mother died. How do you know she is planning to cause trouble.

I am very sorry for the loss of your sister. I hope you are not letting your grief deprive your mother of something she might want.

Hospice gave your sister a shot that made her not function well after it? You'll have to explain that better. Unless you can show your niece did some harm, you won't be able to take out a legal order on her, but you can request she stay away.

Who has Mom's POA? Yes, you could get a restraining order wiyh POA. But, it may be a good idea to call Adult Protective Services to discuss issues with the neice with them.

Are you able to take care of your Mom yourself?