What do I say. I have been asking for Palliative Care, but we have an HMO and all they gave him a month ago was a nurse for 30 minutes a week. If he stops all meds and cancer treatment I will demand HOSPICE, I can't bear to see him suffer anymore.
As of yesterday, He's not able to eat, dress himself or walk without assistance. 24/7 Oxygen. His heart rate has averaged 140-150 pulse since Friday night. He was given Chemo and Immunotherapy for Stg 4 Adeno Carcinoma which has made the heart condition worse.
The KAISER Oncologist said his cancer is treatable, but not curable?? WTH!
Any wisdom you can share I would be so grateful for. I have his AD and his will, but I've been up all night, it's 4AM trying to figure out what I should say or do now that he has refused to be hospitalized.
Is he a danger to himself now? I don't have any healthcare proxy or power of attorney. We have a living trust with our home and again his Will, but unless he has a heart attack or stroke, there is no DNR.
What words shall I say to him. I don't want to say the wrong thing. We've been together since I was 24, and I am 61.
And YES everyone I know I need to take care of 'me' this is why I am reaching out again. I am praying that I do the right thing for all concerned.
I'm devastated. He left the hospital against medical advice and refused care and they told me they were going to notify his Doctors last night.
Thanks everyone. I can't believe I found this forum. I have read and read so much of your shares. It's been a god send. Truly.