My mom has been in a nursing home for 10 years now and should have been in much sooner. She was a VERY healthy and health conscious woman so her body now is betraying her by keeping trapped in what i can only imagine is hell. My dad cared for her at home for as long as he could as he felt too guilty to make the tough transition. I watched my father spiral into a broken man who was incapable of coping. I intervened to move her into care after trying home care support and regular support from myself. My mother was also a strong and independent woman so she struggled with an kind of intervention and support. It was quite frankly a horror show at home but a broken clavicle from falling in the middle of the night was quite enough. So 10 years later she is now at the end of her life. Over the Years she lost her speech, power to move at will, and the ability to swallow liquids. As well as many other very unpleasant affects, she has had episodes that appear to mini strokes. During a visit the other day she gave me a heck of a fright when she was actually chocking on her own saliva. Of course no one wants to say that she's at the last turn but it seems to me it could be any time now. As I understand. It she may choke or get pneumonia. Ay one else been here ?