My mother has been mentally and emotionally abusive to me since I was an adolescent. At 57, she retired even though she didn't have the resources to do so, stating that she would live with her children. I told her flat out that she would under no circumstances be supported by me. She has slandered me to our entire family, and continues to tell them that we are close, even though I describe our relationship as "borderline estranged". Last Christmas she asked me to start paying her rent (forever). When I refused she brought up filial responsibility laws, and my aunt has since revealed that my mother intends to sue me for financial support if I don't give in to her demands. In her 14 years of retirement, my mother has spent 10s of thousands on vacations. Last fall she a) moved into a new apartment for which rent is 2X what she paid before, and b) got in credit card debt during a trip to Italy (we live in Canada). At Christmas Eve dinner just days after I refused to support her, she spent 30 minutes telling stories meant to humiliate and demean me. It was so obvious that people who have no idea what's going on actually got up and left the room. How do I deal with this? I don't want to support her. I can't afford it, and the thought that her plan to abuse me financially will succeed makes me so angry. Does anyone have any suggestions? It would be very hard to cut her out of my life completely (I've considered this many many times before) because I do want to stay in contact with some other family members.