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My Grandmother passed away 3 1/2 weeks before I found out and was only notified through her obituary in the newspaper. Her POA never informed anyone of her passing. We do not know where or how she passed as she was living in some cheap care home. My uncle or grandmother's son is her POA and is being WEIRD. I just want to know if it's a POA's responsibility to pay for any services after death before I start paying to let her finally rest in peace.

You may arrange ANY memorial service you choose to pay for in my state. You may contact an officiant, arrange and pay for any site, religious or otherwise, and invite whomever you please, serve a meal (under CDC regulations).

What you do, at your own expense, is up to you. Again, the POA ceases at the demise of the LO.
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I doubt the county would pay for the obit. No you are not responsible for paying final expenses. There may be a fund that will pay for cremation if grandma was indigent. The funeral home would know about that.

COVID has change celebration of life events. A small inexpensive gathering is the norm. Have family gather for a potluck bbq?
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JoAnn29 Sep 9, 2020
She said she learned of the death 3 1/2 weeks later so grandmom had to be buried or cremated by that time. Its a daily cost to keep a body beyond the 3 days.
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" I just want to know if it's a POA's responsibility to pay for any services after death before i start paying to let her finally rest in peace."

Like said, No, the POA is not responsible to personally pay for the funeral. As said, Grandmom should have put money aside for this like in a life insurance policy or prepaying for the funeral.

You say you want to pay for the services. Did you find out the services were not paid for? Did she have a traditional burial? Was she cremated?
If there was an estate who is Executor because that is who is responsible to pay her debts out of the estate.
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So sorry for your loss Kate.
And for things to be complicated by not knowing.

POA ends at death.
The assigned executor takes over, if there is one.
Or next of kin.

Someone placed the obituary and paid for that. Start there.
Question 1) Has she been buried/cremated?
Someone made plans if so.
The person making the plans will be held responsible for paying, imo.
Do not give money to someone acting weird.
It is not usually the grand daughter's responsibility to pay.
Question 2) Who is asking you for money?

Question 3)Did she have family in addition to her son?

Question 4) Why is this an emergency?
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KateCR Sep 9, 2020
The county paid for her obituary, she was abandoned by her POA who kept everyone out of the loop of her whereabouts and the state was unable to reach anyone about her passing for 3 1/2 weeks, she passed alone in the hospital.
He found out the same time as the rest of my family and myself did however he I guess was able to make arrangements being that he was her POA and her son. However, my mom was her daughter and he won’t let her have any involvement in the process.
It was an emergency bc I wanted to volunteer to pay for her services to respect her wishes bc he shut out our whole family. So with him making arrangements I doubt anyone will be able to pay our last respects.
Death brings family drama but I had no control or contact with him and it’s just hard to go through this bc my grandma would have never wanted things to be this way. Thank you for your helpful information and advice.
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POA ends at death. No one can tell you that you have to pay. While is the executor of the estate? Moms money should be paying for her internment or cremation.

I am sorry for your loss and everything else that you are going through. May God grant you grieving mercies and strength during this difficult time.
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Generally a person is responsible for their own burial, cremation etc. It is part of end of life planning. It is the responsibility of the Executor of the Estate to pay the final bills from the estate, including funeral costs.

If there is no money in the estate, then the question does become who will pay. Neither the Executor, nor the POA has the right to assign a portion of the funeral expenses to any members of the family.
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