My Mom, early 90s, had a major cancer surgery six weeks ago. She refused rehab and came home three weeks ago. She is very withdrawn, barely eating, not drinking, sleeping constantly and completely bedridden. Yet the doctor says she is strong and could have a year left if she starts to eat, drink, and move around. Of course, when she is asked to do anything, she says "not now" "later" "okay, I will" and then falls asleep. When we try to have a conversation with her about her wishes, we get "of course I want to get better" "I will." We do not have hospice (sibling opposed due to past experience). I would welcome any thoughts on how to proceed. Thank you for reading.