The physician for my in-laws seems to be lacking in knowledge of geriatric care. His remedies are always, "You love him, don't you? Hug and be good to each other". I'm concerned that the quality of care that they get is questionable, especially when it comes to mental health. In their mid 90's and late 80's, they still live in their own home and are fiercely independent. However, they spend a good deal of their days arguing viciously. We get weekly calls from one or the other stating that this can't go on. Dad's physical health has gone downhill markedly in the past year, as well and Mom is showing signs of clinical depression.
We live in a different county, an hour away. One of their daughters shrugs her shoulders about the issue and the other vehemently denies that there is a problem and she lives the closest to them. What can we do for my husband's parents?