I've written to you before. My question was about how my mom was miserable in AL. I received lots of good advise about how it would take 6 months to a year for her to feel like this is her home. She now has had at least 3 episodes of sundowners syndrome. She thinks shes in a school and we won't let her come home. I visited her this morning and she still kept saying that it was a school. It appears that her mild dimentia is getting much worse. How do I handle this? I made the mistake Friday night of telling her that she was living here and she picked the place. She had a meltdown since she thought it was a school. She's also getting extremely paranoid hiding things etc. She has a huge argument with the wait staff and the kitchen telling them that they stoler her wine. When she had put in in her room. She is so unhappy. I'm thinking of suggesting an antidepressant.
I also read a recent article here that said that dementia can get worse if the person is not doing chores etc. She doesn't have to do anything in the AL. She walks and sometime exercises, but that's about it. She is not a social person at all. Any suggestions at all would be really appreciated. I feel so guilty about putting her here. Even though she couldn't live alone any longer.