I am in a very difficult spot as I know many people are. But I really could use some advice.
My mom is in need of a place to live. She is actually losing her home to foreclosure and needs to be out by March 15th. She has 0 dollars and has less than $900 per mo. from SSI, so her own apt. just isn't feasible.
All of us have major issues with my mom, some of us more than others. I have mine too, but despite this, I do love her and want her to be safe and happy.
I have 3 older siblings. My sister offered her a place to live, but is not able to take in my mom and her dog. My mom will NOT be separated from her dog. It's understandable. She loves him more than anything or anyone.
My brothers would not provide a safe place. They wouldn't hurt her, but it would not be comfortable or loving.
So,then there's me and my family. My hubby is deadset against her coming here for multiple reasons. When we lived with her, she was often mean, cussed, and told lie after lie. My husband worked VERY hard to get us into our own home last year because I was in tears almost on a daily basis living there. She is also very wasteful with food, water, and energy.
We only have 3 bedrooms, all occupied, so taking her in would be most difficult for us. Not to mention the fact that we have a dog, who doesn't exactly play well with others. My daughter, who is 14, has kindly offered to get bunks for her small room and share it with my mom. But she has a kitty in her room and of course my mom has her dog, who is ill-behaved. He nips, barks constantly, chews, and widdles on everything!
At least 2 out of 3 of my sibs are financially capable of helping, but won't. We live paycheck to paycheck.
I told my hubby that I understand his hesitations, I have them too. But I also know that despite everything, she would help us if we need it. She's 78, scared and feeling rejected by everyone. I don't want to look back and have regrets and guilt that I didn't even try. I just feel like no matter what I do, it won't be the right decision.
Am I crazy for even considering this? Any advice would be most appreciated.