My 77 yr old Stepfather has been very sick for a long time. He has diabetes and is on dialysis. He broke his hip and is in a rehabilitation facility. He is getting stronger, but still can't walk or care for himself. The rehab facility is getting ready to release him because he is not progressing. My 75 yr old mother thinks he can come home and she can take care of him even though he can't walk. She is working to get him a medical bed and some help to come in and physical therapy etc.
I have tried to explain to her that her focus should be on getting him the care that he needs in a skilled nursing home and getting him on Medicaid to help pay.
I believe she is not being realistic at all in what it will take to care for him. She thinks if she couldn't then why would the case worker be giving her information on how to obtain a power wheel chair and medical bed. BTW their townhouse is 3 floors with just a toilet on the first floor and he is not able to go up stairs.
I know this is hard for my mother, but how do I talk sense to her so she will start seeing the situation rationally and get him the care he needs.