Kicks us out of home when questioned. I do not know what rights we have, being her caregiver. We moved in with her, to do so. If she runs out of meds, she becomes nasty. kicks us out of her home, unless we provide her with more pills. Brother always finds them for her, but the meds make her incapable of caring for herself. I have had to carry her from the toilet back to bed. I've had to remove food from her mouth, because she nods off while eating. Recently we tried to regulate her pills. She became so angry, she called CPS on my husband and I stating we abuse our son. Mom purchase her several years ago, knowing full well, that her garage conversion into a granny flat, was not legally permitted. the flat is where my husband and I reside. Mom has the main house. After being told she couldn't have fifteen oxycodones with her lunch, she becomes irrate, called not only me and my husband, MF's, but called her grandson, and a neighbor kid one as well. Then she called the city permit office and told them that the building is illegal. Here we are, weeks later, the granny flat has to be demolished, because we do not have the 20,000 to bring the place up to code, none of the other siblings want anything to do with her unless they can get money from her. She is nearly out of money now, she has caused her only caregivers to vacate, and her only concern is when will she get her next pill. What can we do? I do not want her to die because of her addiction, nor do I want her to have to be placed into a nursing home. They would surely keep her sedated seeing how nasty she is. What can we do? I would like to salvage what little money she has left, to help care for her. but because her addiction is so huge, she will be broke before we know it.
"If she runs out of meds, she becomes nasty. kicks us out of her home, unless we provide her with more pills. Brother always finds them for her, but the meds make her incapable of caring for herself."
Oxycodone is a controlled substance; unless laws have changed and I'm ill informed, it can't be obtained without a prescription. How is it that you and/or your brother are obtaining and providing these pills? Who's writing the prescriptions? Are you prescription and/or doctor shopping?
I don't understand why you haven't gone after the suppliers. Since you know how much she spends you obviously have some way of seeing her checking account or charge slips.
Oxycodone is a Schedule 2 controlled substance. Abuse of it is DEA jurisdiction. Check the DEA website for information on how to contact them and report illegal drug sales.
Even if she takes the lowest dose, she's still taking more at one time than is the average recommended for a day.
In the meantime, Maggie calls it right. Being a drug addict enabler is not caregiving.
Your MIL needs to be admitted to a drug detox and rehab program immediately.
Poor woman. Get out of her life. If you care a twit about her other than exploiting her, call 911 on your way out.
I'm curious, though, about your fear of nursing home placement. You think they would "sedate" her? Isn't she already self-sealing with oxycodone? What pharmaceutical intervention might occur in a nursing home might include antidepressants and anti-anxiety meds to soothe her depression and anxiety. Once no longer addicted to pain meds she might be a more tractable patient altogether.
Have you thought about driving her to your local emergency room and telling them how much oxycodone she's ingesting a day?