Father passed away over year and half ago. Am only living child. Her local surgeon has stressed that her current "quality of life" may not be the same if she has surgery. She flip flops back and forth between wanting surgery and not wanting surgery. When I mention that we may have to ask my sister-in-law who is not working to help us get to specialist in Seattle for surgery, she refuses and won't even let me discuss her condition with my sister-in-law. Am feeling much guilt as I will not jeopardize my job/livelihood to take her out of town for high risk surgery that will not prolong her life in the long run and may even cause her more problems in the future. Help! Can't stand the guilt I feel. Also need to mention she has always been a very demanding and selfish person, nothing anyone could do has ever been enough for her. My father always tried his best to make her happy and left her off very comfortable financially.