There is daily friction between them and I'm caught in the middle. Some background:Mom became wheelchair bound in Mar 2015 when her leg was amputated above the knee. She is almost blind due to diabetes. She spent several months in a rehab unit, then we thought she was well enough to come home. We made several accommodations to our home including making half our large den into a bedroom for her, putting a commode and sink close by and widening a door.
The stuff we had to move to make room for her bedroom and bathroom is in her old bedroom or in the garage, etc. It is a mess. She is able to get in and out of bed normally by herself and transfer on and off the commode. We have to transport her to another bath for her to take a shower, which she can also do herself. I help with drying, but that's all. She can cook some things herself with a micro and a toaster oven. She is not totally dependent. Mom and hubby used to get along much better than now--I believe because they are both older and deal with a lot of chronic pain issues. I don't know, but it is driving me crazy! She gets her feelings hurt easily and cries at the drop of a hat. My hubby doesn't 'get' how this effects me, He also doesn't realize what position he is putting me in when they argue or he makes her cry. I need help on what to do, other than getting the dog and leaving town. I love both of them, but I am afraid it will destroy my marriage. Plus, mom feels like she is a burden and has said more than once, just find someplace for me to go. Then the GUILT kicks in.....Can anyone offer me some help?