We moved MIL and FIL in with us a year and half ago because mil was dealing with stage 4 cancer. She passed in Jan 2017. Although they did not have a happy marriage, she did everything for him. He drove her crazy and wasn’t a good husband. He is now 85. He makes his bed. That’s the only housework he does. He leaves his laundry basket in front of washing machine for me to do. At dinner, he won’t even put his dirty plate in sink. Much worse than this is that he leaves us no privacy. As soon as he hears us up in the morning ( we work from Home) comes out to kitchen to talk. This man can talk. We are his only companions. He always talks about himself. We cater to him dr appts, dentist , haircuts, cvs runs. If we watch tv downstairs he sits with us. It’s like no privacy. We do go upstairs now after dishes to watch tv and be alone. My hubby takes care of helping him with his monthly banking. He has no bills and does not contribute to the household at all. We do not say anything about that because we both work and can afford the extra expenses. He gives about 1k a month to his daughter who is not in a strong financial position yet she won’t take him for a week because he causes so much anxiety. He also had a son in same town as us but we literally have to bug him to come and help out. And yet he borrows $ from his father (son is 57) and doesn’t pay him back. (Spends all his money on his 24 yr old partner). Today I caught my FIL watching me leave the upstairs bathrooom with a towel around me going to my bedroom after a shower. He was looking from living room. It creeped me out. Also little things like him getting our mail out of mailbox everyday taking to his room, making our piles and the distributing it to letting us know what looks important. Yesterday he even told me to open a piece because he wanted to see what it was. I’m not sure what is driving me more crazy. Lack of privacy, laziness, constant talk about his health, his hearing, his sore neck, this or that. Trust me we bring him to doctors for everything. We have included him on some of our social functions. He does have a tendency to try and take over everyone’s conversations. Please let me know if I am being too harsh and if not how do I address. Forget about his two other kids. They have their issues and literally won’t help.