Elderly lady took in a niece,her husband, 2 small kids, twin newborns, dogs and cat for a short while. He finally got a job and no move. Advice?

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Elderly lady took in a niece,her husband, 2 small kids, twin newborns, dogs and cat for a short while. He finally got a job and no move. Advice?

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The couple isn’t bothering to look for other housing and friend is a physical wreck after 6 months. Friend has poor immunity and I fear Covid being brought home to her. She has constant dogs barking and little kids in and out. The husband is very rude to everyone and has explosive temper tantrums and is working from home. With them not house hunting, how or where can they go?

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It may be difficult to evict in Corona (but some states are beginning to say evictions OK if tenant did not lose job), but someone needs to help elderly lady file for order of prediction

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You don't have to be in mental decline to help family. What I see is a woman that took on too much and now is overwhelmed and doesn't know how to go about getting these people out.

Mystery, I do not feel sorry for the niece. You don't keep having kids if u can't support them and care for them. It was her choice. And then throw animals in the mix.

I would see a lawyer just to see what steps the friend needs to take. It may depend on if they paid her rent or utilities. There is an eviction process. I may try the County Clerk to see who ur friend would talk to see how she needs to go about doing it before talking to a lawyer. There is probably a 30 day notice but with the husbands anger problems she may want to see how she can protect herself. If they aren't out in 30 days, I think the police can come and enforce the conviction. Just make sure when they leave they take everything with them. That there is a cop there at the time. And change the locks once they are out.

She needs to start the process now. The longer she waits the harder it will get. If the niece needs help, tell her to go to Social Services.

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Oh I'm definitely not promoting the idea that niece and crew should be allowed to stay. But their circumstances will make it even tougher to figure this out and the chaos likely contributed greatly to the current situation for a multitude of possible reasons. They definitely need to go. If they won't go voluntarily (they may simply be clueless), then legal means need to be checked out. Like I said in my other post, I can't imagine what this couple is thinking or if they thinking at all.

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Wow. I feel like niece is probably at her wits end and is lucky to get all those kids dressed and fed each day. Not to mention pet care. How large is this house for all of these people? Under the circumstances you describe, I can't imagine WHAT this couple is thinking - or if they even CAN think beyond the immediate moment. A friend of mine took in multiple people (so many that they were lined up sleeping on the floor), but the landlord got suspicious and friend had to kick out the extras or she would get evicted herself. But that was a rental situation. Where was this niece and her family living previously?

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The niece had a good job in Carolina. Husband was not employed as he just got home from Afghanistan. She had a moment of disagreement with her boss, got fed up, and quit a nice job. Divorce was in the air and girl talked with her aunt up north. Aunt is retired and lives in a small 3 bed 50’s house with a dog of he own and she had just taken in 2 small dogs belonging to her ill sister. They aren’t contacting a realtor and I am sick of my friend making excuses for them when they should look. She doesn’t want to create waves for them, but acts stressed and sick over all of this. Girls father has huge house that is kind of like a hoarder situation, he is never home or works weird hours, and many plumbing broken issues are in his house. This is his daughter and his grandkids, yet no one will opt to help him fix up the house and have them moved with him. Awful situation. Meanwhile girls husband has carved out a little basement area so he can work from my friends home and not hear screaming kids, barking dogs, or sweeper running. She has to tip toe around in her own house. I don’t think she should have allowed him to make a space for himself.

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I agree with CTTN that there has to be cognitive decline going on. There is more than poor judgement here. At this point there is very little that you can do. If she comes to you, the two of you can attend an hour consult with a lawyer to see how she should proceed, but with this craziness the niece could already be planning competency hearings, and guardianship and heaven knows what.
Short of advice from a laywer I am flummoxed over what to suggest. As a friend you really have zero power here.

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The lady must have cognitive decline to have ever agreed to this.

Perhaps the niece thinks that if her aunt dies, that she and her family will inherit the house?

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