Having just got through a Dark Night of the Soul of epic proportions as my childhood abuse / adult traumas came up, my husband's mask dropped to unanticipated depths of marital & financial abuse...... as my brother simultaneously started to crash, then I went over a cliff in my van ..... and eventually my brother committed suicide. I was in therapy told No Contact.... as my family imploded within a year.
My mother and husband of the same ilk, I married my mother..... insecure narcissism is incredibly toxic.
Since this happened and especially my brother's death, to which she blurted out to me, she encouraged him to take his life.... I see a sort of psychosis as she lashes out even more. I am low contact as she and my dad in their late 80's. I am worried for my dad....and for my well being, as I was always the scapegoat, and I really want nothing to do with her, but of course being an empath..... I struggle to be compassionate while putting up boundaries.
Since my brother died in Dec 2019 .... I have hardly seen them, they never ask about my feeling about my brother's death and my mother's insane admission..... sos
The issues you mention are beyond the scope of the volunteer community of caregivers here on this public forum.
"Having just got through a Dark Night of the Soul of epic proportions ....."
Are you writing a movie script?