I have a elderly Aunt that I'm caring for.She's 88 and lives at home alone.She appointed me her DPOA about 6 months ago.She has me go to her bank to get spending money for her once and sometimes twice a week. Each time it's $300.
I have no idea what she does with her cash I get for her from the bank. But, somehow she's always short on money she says. I think she hides her cash then forgets where she placed it.
This is becoming a problem for me as her POA.How can I account for money she hides and then misplaces it?In turn this makes me look like the person taking her money.It's her money not my money.I shouldn't have to account for money she hides then misplaces.Why should I be the one to think of a accuse where her money went?While she seats back and worry free?Not fare to me.
In the last month I drawed out of her bank account for her $600.I only seen her with maybe $150 out of that $600.If this keeps going on,this will become into the thousands.I don't want that to happen.
She has full control of her checkbook.She feels she has no problems paying her bills on her own.I ask her many different times to let me handle her bills and checkbook.There's times to where she would agree to give me her checkbook to attempt to take charge of paying her bills.But,with her dementia she forgets!Then,she would attempt to accuse me of taking her checkbook.I don't want to go to jail because,of her dementia accusing me of taking her checkbook.
She's starting to accuse me of spending her money.She writes a check out for something.Two days later she accuses me of writing in her checkbook saying it's not her signature when it really is her signature in her checkbook.
When I do her grocery shopping for her.She never has cash to give me for her groceries.She tills me to use her debit card as credit because,she forgot her 4 dight pin to use as debit.Then,when her bank statements comes in the mail she accuses me saying what it all of these charges for."Accusing me".I'm getting tired of all of this stuff!..I'm helping her not abusing her or taking her money as she thinks I'm doing.What should I do?