My elderly father has been sick for about a week with some very serious sounding medical symptoms. He is barely able to eat and can only hold down fruit without vomiting. He constantly has to go to the bathroom, but he can barely get anything out and he says his urine is sometimes sticky. He has lower back pain and is weak and very thin.
I have been trying to care for him this week but I live an hour and a half away from him and I work full time so it's really not possible for me to care for him on my own. I filed a export with elder a use because I felt he was endangering his life by not eating or seeking medical care. I had emts come but he refused to go to the hospital.
He is able to get up, dress, and wash himself but I feel he needs care due to his weakness, lack of eating, and very conning medical symptoms. I tried to get him to accept a caregiver to come help him through Medicare, but he refuses because they require medical care to approve a caregiver. He can't afford to pay for someone to help him, and I am not able to either.
This is very hard for me because I worry about him being alone but I am not able to care for him except to check on him maybe once a week and he refuses to allow me to set up any other care for him.
I should also add that he is high functioning autistic. He can care for himself but he has high anxiety about any changes in his life and he has a fear of doctors and authority figures.
Any advice would be rally appreciated.