Dad is CONSTANTLY moaning that he's stuck in the house and never gets to go anywhere. Wants me to visit (and sit in his house all the time).
Last few years I've made an effort to take him away for the weekend to watch cricket (something we both enjoy). Its hard work because of what he's like but hey ho.
BUT, he moans and moans. Trying to sort this year's trip and I'm getting every excuse under the sun.
1. It's too far to drive back in the dark. (the car has lights!)
2. I'm worried about you driving so far. (Its two hours drive away, leave it to me!)
3. I won't be able to sit and watch the game because I won't be able to get my mobility scooter in there. (How many times I tell him that venues are obliged to cater for the disabled I lose count!)
4. I don't want you to lose pay by taking a day off work (I am self employed and I do lose pay but hey ho, its all factored in).
Its pretty much the same with everything. He wants to do what he wants to do and everyone has to do it. Its no good asking him to compromise he won't. He's a nightmare.
Last xmas day my brother invited him to his house for xmas dinner. But brother had already arranged to meet friends, only for an hour, in the pub before dinner. He invited Dad along. Dad went nuts and said he didn't think its right for someone to go to the pub on xmas day.
Its getting to the point now where both of us think, sod it not offering any more, and ignoring the moaning.
Is this sort of thing normal for older people? Doesn't make sense to me at all. Maybe I'll be like it but surely they should making the most of their final years if they can (and Dads health isn't that bad)?