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My mother had been in an Assisted Living and gotten very sick, to the point she was in the hospital and then sent to rehab. She was then released to go back to the Assisted Living, but she was so weak and out of it, that I just couldn't send her back. I had made the decision, long ago, never to put her in a nursing home. So I felt it was time to bring her home. She remained weak for months and then after about 6 or 7 months she suddenly got better and now she is doing so much better. This has been going on for almost 3-4 months now.

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AngieJoy, Thank you so much for your response, it does help very much.
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Roxy, Yes. We had the same experience with my dad. In the first two months that he was with us, he was hospitalized three times. The third time he was so ill that they recommended hospice (he didn't go on hospice, both because he didn't want to and because his condition improved to the point where hospice wasn't essential) . When he came home with us from that third hospital stay, he was very weak and ill and was cleared to walk only 30 feet. He gradually improved, and by the holidays he was doing quite well. Eventually, he was able to move into a senior independent living apartment. Shortly after he moved into the apartment (spring 2014), he became very ill with a UTI and with fluid buildup from heart failure. The doctor at urgent care told us that Dad had less than a year to live. Now, two years later, Dad is doing great. The cardiologist doesn't want to see him again till next year. He still has quarterly checkups with his primary care doctor, but those are preventive care.
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Thank You 4740, I did think about going back to the assisted living, but can't at this point. I think she is better because she is here. She has never been a very social person, and when she was in the assisted living, she did not make any friends. But she was know as sweet and easy to get along with, always had a great smile. ( She was involved with only family and some she does not recognize)
Yes, I do need the breaks and I am working on that. I appreciate your response.
I have just been amazed at the turn around and wondered if anyone else had experienced this happening. Thanks.
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Does she have any money? You definitely should get help in. You might even find a caregiver whom you trust, who could stay all weekend once in a while so you can go away.

If she is able to go back to assisted living, and wants to, don't try to talk her out of it! You are very nice and loving, but not as interesting as a whole building full of people!
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cwillie: Thank You, Honestly, I have thought about that, long term care I may be doing now. Because, I also thought Mom was nearing the end of life. The doctor even thought she may only have a year. And last appointment he said "see you next year". I am thankful my Mom is better, but I do need help. My husband is wonderful and he does not want my Mom to be warehoused, so he does support her being with us. I have one sister 6 hours away, she works, but is willing to help as much as she can. She is taking her for a month and then try to take her at least some time during each month. I do have some respite care coming in, but I guess it is just the responsibility and knowing you have lost your freedom. And this happened just when my husband and I was going to do some traveling. BUT, my Mom deserves the care, and I am thankful for some special moments and being the one to tuck her in at night knowing she has been safe and treated right. I have been told, it is VERY important for the caretaker to be taken care of too..
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That's great! It can take a long time for the elderly to recover from any kind of sickness or trauma, I'm glad she's doing better.
Are you starting to wonder about your choice to bring her into your home? It can be very challenging to figure out the best course of action. Now that she is stable she could live unchanged for a long time, so you need to be alright with doing this for the long term. I jumped in to help my own mom and made decisions believing that she was nearing the end of her life, now years later I am still her caregiver with no end in sight. I don't think I would have done anything differently, but I do wish I had had a clearer understanding of things back then.
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