I'm totally lost here. Dementia isn't an issue here--my 75 year old mother refuses to bathe because it doesn't bother HER. This is a long-standing problem (my dad reports hygiene issues with my mother 30 years ago), and it's degenerated to screaming matches more than once. She's come down with repeated MRSAs, which makes her a very real danger to the rest of the family. She has sores, open, oozing spots on her ears and scalp, and the odor is absolutely horrifying. Just today, she FAKED a shower--went in, turned on the water, let it run for a few minutes, then wet her hair and came back out, pretending to have bathed. I know she faked it--no soap suds or shampoo suds in the tub, no smell of soap or shampoo, no water on the floor, towels dry. I'm at my wits end. We're moving away in a few months, mostly because of this. Nothing works but screaming at her, and even that only works for a couple of weeks. What can we do?