Going through life with an aged loved one with dementia is not for sissies, is it? Our family has made several attempts to try to make my mother's life easier and more fulfilled over the years, especially since her last divorce. Family outings, get-togethers, barbecues, visits to her home, etc. We have tried to encourage her to get together with friends/activities/church/Senior Center, etc. over the years and she has refused it all. She has only wanted to get together with me (her only daughter/child) and my immediate family, or sit at home and watch tv and care for her plants. She has been very seclusive over the years. Poor thing has a hard time of hearing, arthritis, high bp, a stroke, etc. Two dysfunctional husbands, one abusive Psychiatrist/Marriage counselor (my dad) & two divorces. We tried having her at her home w/caregivers & family providing 24-hour care, but she demanded we all leave and let her care for herself. We took her to an AL; she was miserable during her stay; refusing to get involved there. I took her out 3x's week to beauty shop appts., outings, drives, her home for a few hours so she could go through her things...then she fell 3x's at her AL and broke her back, and is now at a Rehab/Conv. Hosp. I just posted on this site recently that things were starting to look up, but just received a call from the Rehab/Conv. Home that mom that in a lucid moment stated to the nursing staff that she was ready to go home, she didn't care what anyone said, and if needs be she would take me to court and try to get the POA lifted that she set in place 10 years ago. What to do? Give in to her and hope it "all works out" and try the caregivers AGAIN, try to find a locked facility so she doesn't escape? ask the doctor to try a new medication? Safety is our utmost concern. At this time she does not listen to the Skilled Care Nursing staff and tries to get out of her chair (it has an alarm) and/or her bed. If it weren't for her roommate telling on her/the alarms going off, she might be in dire circumstances. Some days I feel like just giving up, but most of the time I feel like I should be the dutiful daughter and always do what is most beneficial for her safety. Are there any doctors/nurses/legal advisors to help me in this situation? I'm trying to balance my life as a Christian/wife/mother/grandmother/caregiver/teacher/ person with frequent neck aches and am having some difficulty with this constant weight known as my demanding cognitively impaired needy mother. As my husband often quotes: "Our hearts are restless until they find their rest in God". This is so true with my mother. If you are a prayer warrior, I would appreciate prayer tonight as I feel at my wit's end and a bit discouraged tonight. I know many of you can relate. If we give in to my mother's demands, I'm concerned that we are going to start this vicious cycle all over again if she finds an emotional and/or liberal social worker who believes only in "patient's rights". The nursing staff suggested having a conference together, and then with my mother and our family to try to come up with some possible options. Will this be a good thing or not so good thing to do in the long run. Any input? Thanks. .