My grandmother is in her mid 80's and has Alzheimer's. She's to the point now where she refuses to clean herself and is very combative. She lives with my Grandfather who is also in his mid 80's. My Grandfather is very old fashioned and very stubborn. My mother and I live within 30 minutes away and are eager to help. He lets my mother do some cleaning once in a while but almost nothing else. We've tried to get him to allow professional to come in and help with bathing, daily chores, etc. But he refuses. Part of the problem is that he is embarrassed by my grandmother. I'm not sure what I should do or what I can do if anything.