Hi. Im a carer to an 76 year old man. This man is my husband, and im 35 years old. It certainly seems odd, our age gap, but we got together 15 years ago and we were very happy at the beginning. I stood by him through all his problems, i love him very much. But the past two years hes been horrible to me. I understand he might not feel as good as i did years ago but i do everything i can to make him feel great about himself.
But nothing i do now is right. Everything is wrong, i try to help him all the time, he refuses my help and then blames me for not helping.
He blames me for every little thing that happens, shouts at me inside the house, and in public. calls me names. If i retaliate he goes days without talking to me. If i dont cook him chips he says im trying to starve him, even though the doctor told him to eat healthy. He forgets things that we talked about 5 minutes ago and i feel like ive been talking to the walls. Everything is my fault now. Its getting to the point where im saying sorry and begging for forgiveness over something i have not done. Im getting so depressed and frightened. Im considering suicide.
Can someone please give me some advice on how to cope with this? I fear that if i talk to my doctor about it he wont believe me because it would be more likely a young person abusing an elderly person.