When I feed my grandma grease and sugar she licks her plate. I do not typically do this Bc of her morbid obesity, diabetes and multiple strokes. When I feed her the home cooked food I serve my spouse and children, she throws her plate in the floor and yells, "girl do your job and clean up this mess." This is the way she has always been and I am at the end of my rope. She is currently on a waiting list to go back into a nursing home. I am doing this because she verbally abuses my daughter, I can take it but she should not have to. Any advice for now, I place towels around my wheelchair. She laughs at me when I am on my knees cleaning my hardwood floor.