She has health problems - walking and a lot of pain - and she is very depressed. She is supposed to come to Thanksgiving dinner tomorrow with lots of people but has no desire to fix herself up. She goes out shopping like this - she says everyone knows she is sick and won't care but that I'm ashamed of her and have upset her. She takes everything very personally. Now, she says she isn't coming to Thanksgiving dinner because I am ashamed of her. What do I do?