Here is the deal. The local senior center has a Thanksgiving meal coming up on Sunday, the 20th. They have a meal like that once a month on Sunday. The other meals are on the weekdays. My husband and I would like to go the Sunday dinner on the 20th. I usually don't take Mom to this meal because she won't dress properly. She has dementia and lives at home alone. She wears the most ratty clothing that is dirty. I cannot take her out in those clothes so we go w/o her. She will no change her clothing. If I ask her to do so, she yells at me. So her neighbor takes her and there she is sitting with the neighbor when we get there. So I sit by her. The last time I did that she proceeded to yell at me during the whole meal. By the time I left, I had a migraine and a stomach distress. So I ask you, would it be out of line to not sit with her or to move when she starts yelling at me while I am eating? Or what should I do?