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My mother picks at hairs on her face, then, sores came out on her face, now she is picking her face all the time and the sores are getting worse. She has always been a controlling person. She is urinating and has diahrrea and acts like she did not even know it. She like to sleep until 1pm or 2pm, so she is hard to get to the doctor's office. And all she does is sleep and eat, she doesn't want to take a bath. My father is four years older than her, he helps all he can, but he is forgetting a lot now. He will go out and occassionally forget how to get home.
We have someone to help out a few hours 5 days a week...my parents do not want to leave their home.
So what would cause my mother to pick at her face all the time

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Thank you so much for your responses. I feels good to talk to someone who understands. Our help we have to help Mom bathe, she will help her bath, but she says she cannot get her in the shower. Any suggestions...my Mom tells her no and she keeps trying to get her to shower, it is just my Mom knows she cannot make her. I will get her to the doctor.
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My mother had a sore on her face, which she picked at or rubbed. She did not want to go to the doctor but we finally got tough and insisted. Turned out to be skin cancer. It was completely removed surgically, but it could have been a much smaller area if she had gone in earlier. I'm not saying your mother has skin cancer -- who knows what she has -- but the sooner she gets medical attention, the better. Get an afternoon appointment or get mom up in the morning, but get her in to a doctor!

It sounds like your dad has early stage dementia -- is that corrrect? What are your mother's impairments that she has no interest in normal activities? What kind of help comes in a few hours a day? For example, is there a bath aide to help mom with that task?

The face sores are the immediate need. But then it sounds like more or different help might be needed at home.

Hugs to you. You have a lot to deal with.
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A couple of things come to mind... you said she does not like to bathe, she may have dry skin and sometimes it can become a viscious cycle, there is something called neurodermatitis, that may require you taking her to the Dr, and have them see what is going on....The ND can be stress related also, but has she had any med changes around the time she started doing this???? As much as she may not want to go to the Dr, it can become infected, especially if her hands are not clean....
Sounds like you have your hands full with both mom and dad.... let us know how things turn out if she will consent to go to the Dr...
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