My elderly mother has suffered a stroke in the last 3 years does not speak has lost use of her right arm and has been financially supportive of her 5 elder children and 3 adult grandchildren living with her. So supportive that she is now loosing her home to a forclosure. My family is divided & everyone has financially abused her one way or another & they all point fingers of blame...especially one particular sibling making it extremely difficult to handle any problems at all. While this sibling has proven to be the most combative she also supports heavy traffic in the home and drug trafficking by her children who claim to have legal marijuanna liscenses. I love my neices & nephews and my sibling, but i dont understand them & there total disregard for there grama. Our family is Trully dysfunctional at this point and many of my 8 siblings are too lazy & unrealistic of the reality that my mother is going to loose her home because they can't get it together. Everyone has some excuse as to whybthey are not doing the right thing but theyd like to. Soon they will all be out on the street and some are still in denial and painting a picture for my mother that is unrealistic. My poor mother is so loving and trusting but I trully think she has put faith and trust in the wrong hands or she is clueless and in denial herself. I mean no disrespect to my mother, she is everything to all of us - but at times I endlessly wonder if any of us really do love her though, because if we trully did, why did we let this get so far?!? We have tried to gather everyone for reasoning & a attempt to sell the home before forclosure so at least my mother can end up with finances for perhaps a smaller more affordable home. But the sale was sabotaged by our one combative sibling & her daughter by approaching real estate agents at the exit of their vehicles & chasing them away with our entire family story. My biggest fear is my mothers well being, becoming homeless and sadley becoming financially deprived with nothing. I am so conflicted on how to begin resolving these issues and what the first step to take is. Something must be done immediately or the house goes up for auction mid April and everyone will then have there reality check bounced! I have 1 sibling whom is willing to help financially & my father as well to bring her up to compliance with the bank. Even then they are reneging because it too high of a risk factor and they have there own mortgages to fear & without a promissory note or something solid to have the house put up for sale or ran under a property management they do not want to loan anything. I myself cannot help financially. I am newly divorced & raising two small children on a supported income untill i myself get on my feet & complete my divorce process. How can I get my mothers best interest heard & understood and make my non participating siblings see the light? Fighting has torn us all apart and I constantly fear approaching the subject and my mother with these issues because I am afraid it will give her another stroke. But then again the loss of the only home she has known for years would be enough to set off a stroke as well. I understand selling our mothers home is not ideal but it feels like the only answer right now to end this nightmare & secure the little time our dear mother has left with all of us. We all want her happy and to be with her but she does not deserve to have her last days like this. I want her to see her children & grandchildren support themselves, able to get along loving one another again, doing the right thing and for her to spend her little monthly money on herself however she wants it. We are all in a financial tornado and the target is my mothers home and our relationships with one another. As dysfunctional and wrong as this abuse may seem ironically we are a tight family. I know it sounds ridiculous. It's just that blinders are permanently on some of us and sadly we will never see again untill we are left in the dark. I hope I can have some insight on similar situations although I don't quite think anyone is like ours. This is just the tip of the iceberg for us. The important question is, what can I do to start the process of getting us all on the right track and avoid my mothers home from foreclosing so soon? Please help! I appreciate your time. Blessings.