Elder stepdad in law keeps feeling sorry for himself, wanting to go to the doctors. Wondering if he is attention seeking?
My stepfather- in- law keeps having accidents in the bathroom. I already take care of my mother Post- stroke who is paralyzed on one side and pretty much bedridden. He is an alcoholic and smokes, takes multiple meds, wants to go to the doctor often for abdominal issues. He walks to neighbors’ houses and always talks in a pity-me-poor-me way. Telling everyone how much he cares and he does for mom, (we do it all), not him. Recently he’s been having more falls/accidents. The doctors don’t really find anything wrong with him other than constipation and give him laxatives and pain relief. I feel like he watches us take care of mom and wants us to do the same for him. Doctors and Nurses tell us to let him do things he can, for himself otherwise, they’ll completely depend on us for things. He always worrying and talking about bowel movements, he can’t go, but he barely eats, mostly drinks his calories, - when he does eat he feels like throwing up. Or has explosive bowel movements where he barely makes it to the toilet. We get things for him to eat, then he says he can’t eat it. Then he brags how the hospital fed him and he was able to eat. He seems so attention seeking by all our family and some neighbors too. Does anyone else have these issues with parents. They are in early 60s, not 80s or 90s. Why are doctors not seeing anything wrong with him?