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Please I hope someone can help me! My mom has a gambling addiction, has had for years. My dad has alzheimer's and he wants me to care for him, but she wants me out and she can't take care of him by herself. She is mad at me because I try to stop her from gambling. I think she may have demetia also. My heart is breaking for my dad, but she flat refuses to move in with me. I don't want to put him in a home he wants to stay with me. My mom is being impossible, horrible! My dad did make me POA on theyre account but I hate to separate them.

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darling if you have d.p.o.a you the right to everything ur dad put you in charge cause he is unable.....but as far as ur mom i dnt know what to tell you but, to involved the state you can get sole guardianship as well do your mom still work? if she doesn't you can get a lawyer or use ur dads lawyer to get this all taken care of
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What a challenge for you! But how wonderful for your parents that they have raised such a caring and concerned child who has grown into a compassionate and thoughtful adult. Gambling is very much like so many other additictions - 1) As the onlooker/relative/friend of a person with the addiction, it is completely OUT OF YOUR CONTROL 2) There are wonderful 12-step groups that can do interventions to perhaps help get your mom started on the right path toward recovery 3) Letting go of trying to stop someone from an addiction and replacing that anxiety with prayer often helps. If your mom is mad at you because you keep trying to stop her from gambling, stop trying to stop her. She knows she has a gambling problem - you're a reminder of that which is probably one reason she doesn't want you around. How many people do you know who drink alcohol excessively who enjoy being around people who don't drink? Probably not too many. Get some free literature at some free 12-step gramblers anonymous groups and leave them - surreptitiously - around the house. Stop talking about it with her. Again, she knows she has a problem. Take care of your dad and continue to love and accept your mom unconditionally. She'll come around. Prayer has a way of doing that sort of thing. By being the power of attorney, I think that goes into effect if your dad should ever not be able to care for himself or make decisions for himself. If you can have him move in with you, perhaps that would be the "instant" bottom your mom would experience as a gambler - being alone with her addiction. No matter what, stay strong, stay kind, and stay loving. Our love shines through with how we act in life, not how we react to other people's choices. No matter what, stay strong, stay kind, and stay loving.
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