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My Husband with only according to the doctors limited time left to live eat like he is starving? He eats more than I do and seems he is never full. He is losing weight fast and poops not diahrea just pudding looking poop at least 3 big times a day in his depend. anyone else have this or know the answer.

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me too - worrying about you - waiting to hear that you have gotten some help
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Call them back now. You do need help as much as anyone else on their list. You accepting help will not deprive someone else of help. YOU DESERVE HELP. Please call them and come back and post that you did. I'm going to worry about you until I hear that help is being scheduled.
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I agree, call hospice. Turning to food might be a twisted coping mechanism for him. My comment before was an answer for basic nutritional information. You really need to get some help.
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jeannegibbs I was just thinking about calling them back. they came and I told them I thought i could handle it and i knew there was someone who needed it more than us. now I just dont know. I am about crazy. i mean screaming meanie crazy. i have always been a calm person but i am about to lose it. he is pacing and pacing. wont sit to eat wants to hold the plate or bowl in his hand spills it all over. just poured a cup of water all over the mail i had just brought in. you cant trun your back for a second, and they say he is dying???? oh my God i do wish I was!!
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I agree with you 54j. I see no point in getting a second opinion. If you did discover absolutely that he has cancer, then what? Go through chemo? I don't think so.

At this point the goal should be to keep him comfortable, not to cure him (cause that ain't gonna happen).

Personally, I don't think it is important to find out why he is eating a lot now. It is what it is. Maybe next week he won't eat or drink anything.

I still urge you to take advantage of Hospice care, either in your home and in their setting. It will relieve some of the burden and stress you are feeling. It doesn't really matter whether the doctors are right or wrong about how much time is left. And that is particularly hard to judge in dementia. If a doctor is willing to sign that he is in end-of-life stage, get the professional help you deserve, from Hospice.
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his mind is gone! why put him through all those test and pain. He is not in pain now. after having him tested at Duke Hospital and having all the test they did I cant see putting him through more.
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54j everyone is right, gotta get a second opinion. And they're also right about the appetite DECREASING when someone is dying of cancer, not the opposite. I suppose it could be like one person said that his body is trying desperately to re-generate by food intake, but still... get another opinion.
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doctor on Tuesday said he could have a cancer but with all else going on he was not going to do anything about checking it out. I agreed. he is not in pain just eat and poop.
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Um, if your husband has a massive appetite and is losing weight and the dr's say he doesn't have much time to live than what do they say he is dieing from? Something doesn't sound right to me. You need to see another dr. As people approach death their appetite declines.
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Jane, please, please, bring Hospice in. Even if the doctor is wrong and your husband is not close to death, he is experiencing failure to thrive -- weight loss inspite of eating well. Hospice will see to it that he is comfortable and you are comforted. At this point in the journey you both deserve that. Don't go this alone if you don't have to.
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Jane, I am so sorry for the loss you are experiencing. Do you have Hospice services to help you both on this painful journey? They may also be able to answer questions like this. They are familiar with how the human body shuts down in various circumstances.

Hugs to you.
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It might be his body's way of trying to get more nutrients to heal. Many times we crave certain foods when we need the nutrients in them. For example we crave sugary foods when we need more B Vitamins and Chocolate and dairy foods when we need more calcium. Having an appetite is usually a good sign. You could help him to fill fuller for longer if you add some whole grains. The fiber slows down the digestion process and helps one to absorb nutrients into the blood stream better.
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