I was looking for input from other caregivers to draft a "post" for FB that explains to friends why, as a caregiver, casual invitations/suggestions to get together oftentimes fail to materialize. (NOTE: I'm not seeking advice on how to make accepting these invitations possible - all the standard recommendations I've received so far - family, friends, church community - aren't in "our" network.) Thus, I want to create something that enlightens folks regarding all the open invitations we can't act on or have to outright decline. It's not that we aren't interested - it's simply not logistically possible. I don't want to respond to each invitation with a 'woe is me" explanation or come across as a martyr. I would simply like to create a blanket statement that factually explains caregiving is not a casual role. You can't just pick up & leave the person you care for to travel somewhere for a weekend visit. AS MUCH AS I WANT TO, this isn't an option. Mom is not a cat you can leave food out for, be sure the litter box is clean & head our for a quick getaway. Nor is it like having a dog where someone comes by a couple of times a day to let them out, feed them, etc. It's also more complicated than having a child because finding short-term care for a child seems far less complicated than finding short-term care for an elder with Alzheimer's (for me - it's been impossible). Even as a "last resort", taking mom along is not feasible. The change in environment, her mobility issues, her overall care requirements, etc. are not conducive to just bringing her along with me - logistically or socially. Has anyone ever put together something like this? If not, what reasons might you provide for/how might you explain this? Depending on feedback, I can circle back and share what the "end product" is in the event anyone else might find this useful as we roll into the holiday season...Thanks in advance, folks!