My parents live together in an independent living place. Dad has Parkinson's Disease (later stage) and is deaf. My mother has been his primary caretaker, but has been going down the dementia road. She is convinced that rapists are there, and that the residents are sitting around talking about sex. She is terrified that she is going to be attacked, and has started barricading the door (not very effectively - I can still get in).
She refuses to leave Dad alone, because she fears that someone will harm him in her absence, and I believe she is just making mental state even worse by confining herself.
Of course, I cannot convince her that people don't just sit around talking about sex, or that there is not violent criminal behavior going on there. She is otherwise healthy, takes no medication, and won't take anti-depressants, even though her doc has filled a prescription for her 3 times in the last year. She takes 3 or 4 of them, then refuses to take any more.
When my parents moved to my town 2 years ago, I expected Dad to be the big challenge. Instead, it's turned out to be Mom. Any suggestions on how I can ease Mom's terrifying thoughts?