Mom has severe Aortic Stenosis, 87 yo, very active until this past Spring. Rapidly declined and is now living with me with Hospice care. She has always tried to take care of others, not me as much as our deceased father and my brother who is living with me and takes care of her.
She has never been like this, wants something all the time, juice, food, moved on and on. She can do more for herself then she lets on, but , when I am home it is a constant needing of something. She is not willing to talk about her dying nor is my brother who is in denial. She requires constant attention to simple things but then I see she can lift her cup to her mouth if she wants to. and then goes into this helpless act. She almost seems like a baby instead of an adult.
With my Dad it was totally different, he tried as hard as he could to remain independent and is seems like the opposite with my Mom. How to I deal with this it is driving me crazy, takes so much energy and time.