Being moms only caregiver and knowing Mom was no longer safe at home and refusing help, I ended up doing just that. It was horrid.
Its has been eight weeks now since mom is in a home for dementia care. I see her 2 to 3 times a week. But the guilt for taking her there and not telling her where she was going, is still eating at me. The first time I saw her after I took her, she told me she hated me and could not believe I put her away. It has ben 6 weeks now since she mentioned home, or being angry at me. I tell her I love her everyday, but I feel like I betrayed her by doing it that way. I want so much to offer to take her for a ride,or for a burger, only I fear, what if she refuses to go back. What if it makes her feel worse.How do I handle this with care, any advice.