Family member, 62, lives alone. Past bad experiences with father, and grandmother. Emotionally abusive. Wife left him, had to pay maximum, he says more, child support. Crooked deal according to him. Repeats these stories to all family members. How he was so taken advantage of. Not good, I agree. I am his sister. But these people are long dead, now, with exception of ex.
Dad dead since '05. Grandmother since 92. Just days ago, he said yet again, "Why did my Daddy do that to me??" I don't know. You would have to ask him.
He is unable to let go of past. Relives it in the telling to the point I have seen tears in his eyes. It upsets him to relive it, can't get that across. And it upsets all of us, to hear these negative experiences retold, and often. Used to think I was this emotional trigger to his past, until I found out he did the same to other family members.
He admitted just recently he has low self esteem as well.
Dementia? Metal toxicity? OCD? What could cause this?
He keeps saying we "just do not understand!" He is right. The past is ancient history. All of us have had bad experiences.