Am I asking too much here? Am I drawing a line in the sand, throwing a red flag at a bull, spitting into a fan? With the pending move of my father into my home, he does not have any financial worth to come to the table besides SS. He will be able to maintain himself in my hoe with that regard but if costs become more than is income how do I handle that between siblings? One has no ability or motivation to help financially (always cry's poor mouth), the other is on the level with me financially. My sister agreed to help but we all know how that starts out. I am not looking to help with expenses of my home (unless we have to add something). The heat light and food is the same so that is not a worry. But down the road for medical or other care eventually. Do I risk alienating my sister? She can go off pretty quick (I've seen it, not pretty), we have a decent relationship so I don't want to jeopardize it. Or do I wait until it becomes necessary? I have seen how families splinter during a crisis and I do not want that. Is it best to wait? Has anyone done either? I am not looking for a formal doc but maybe something in writing? Am I asking too much here?