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My daughter was diagnosed with MS, Multiple Sclorosis 4 yrs ago at the age of 23. I have been her sole caretaker. I get so tired even though I know she is in worst pain and more exhausted than me. I feel so guilty when I do not want to go to another 4hr neuro appt. The ER is my worst nightmare. I feel my body get drained, mind numb, and again GUILT. I go on walks,swim(well maybe just bob around in pool). I do get some time alone, just very little. When I get away on a rare lone vacation, it very seems long enough. All the other 23 hrs it seems I am doing the dish, laundry,cooking, shopping,feed dog,pick up dog poop,walk dog,. is this the I want out syndrome

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ReneeKrupa, so sorry to hear about your daughter being diagnosed with MS. I guess there are different types of MS as my best friend has it, and she was diagnosed in her early 30's, she's now in her late 50's.... but she didn't let the disease get her down, she figured out how to continue to live life to the fullest. She even continued to work full-time until she retired, and she drove using hand devices. Her husband has been her caregiver and he's been fantastic.... they try to find a lot of humor in their daily lives, even poking fun at the disease itself. One day she accidently put the car into drive instead of reverse and hit the back wall of the garage.... her hubby joked that she always wanted a 2 car garage, but he didn't realize she wanted a tandem garage.

Why is it draining? It's because you were put into a full time job that you weren't trained to do. Depending on your daughter's ability to do things, it's like an extension of her childhood except this child is older, taller, and weighs more than she did as a child. I know it's easy to say don't try to be superwoman, as you want to do everything you can. If possible get your daughter to help you out, if she can. It would make her feel good, too, to feel helpful.
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It sounds like you are burning out doing caring for your daughter. Do you think that an anti-depressant might help?
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