Our mother doesn't have much time left and I have an open door policy when it comes to anyone visiting our mother. I ask that they please call ahead of time so I can put up my dogs and I also ask they end their visit prior to 7pm when my husband who gets up at 1am for work goes to bed (we have a small house and I don't want him woke up plus my dogs bark at anyone who doesn't live here). My sister has came to visit our mother 3 times in the 2 months she has lived with me. Hospice has been involved since she got here. We are starting into the end days/weeks and my sister brings up that she will come stay over for a few nights to help me out (no one beside my husband and hospice have helped up to this point). I told her I don't mind if she gets here bright and early each morning and leaves by 7pm at night but I cannot deal with someone sleeping over. Needless to say that didn't go over well. She uses the excuse she doesn't have a ride to come visit (we live 20 mins apart) and I have told her I would come pick her up whenever my husband is home to watch our mother to which she has never taken me up on. My sister and I do not get along well at all but I have tried to put aside our issues for our mother's sake but I cannot have her in my house over-night! She is an alcoholic but supposedly not drinking at the moment (not too sure of this cause she hides it alot)...she has some very strange and weird behaviors possibly from brain damage from years of drugs and alcohol abuse and a head injury...she hallucinates at times...and add the bad feelings I have to push down when she is here...I can't deal! I know I can't deal with her here but I also feel bad about it too. If our mother doesn't pass in her sleep or something without warning and she gets to the last days type of thing then at that point I would let her come stay. I am so torn inside...she wont come visit for the whole day but wants to come stay for days in my home...I just don't understand. If she found a way here (her boyfriend could drop her off before he goes to work) I have told her I would drive her home once my husband was home to watch our mother....but she never comes. One visit she had was for 45mins, the other two were whole family get togethers Thanksgiving and Christmas (hospice told us we needed to have it early). Am I being a hateful mean person?