My mom is going to be 94 next month and has had slow advancing dementia since 1995 and I cared for her for 5 yrs. and she was able to go to the bathroom on her own. Since Mother's Day she was in hospital, rehab in Nursing Home and now Long Term Dementia Unit in Nursing Home and is also obsessed with going to the bathroom. She goes ballistic that she has to go to the bathroom and screams, pounds her fists, starts rolling her tongue and biting her finger at the same time. I have asked the nursing staff to take her to the bathroom but she doesn't go and she is 2 assists. Every time I visit it is the same thing and I really don't know how to deal with it. The other day I got very mad after calmly explaining about the catheter in her and makes it feel like you have to go at least 30 x's in 2 hr. time but now she has gotten to the stage where she knows we won't take her to go pee and she always says she has to poop. That makes me feel worse as having to go poop is a horrible feeling but she doesn't go. I'm a little beside myself and a little frustrated as when I see my mom I don't want to argue with her, it's the last thing she needs. This is the first time I got agitated and don't want to do that to mom again.
Beside Myself...Any help would be appreciated...Thank You.