My mom is 74 and lives with me. I am the only person she has to rely on. I am a widow, 55 and only have 1 remaining kid myself, she works and can't help. I am so burned out I can't think straight but it's not from having to care for her as much as just putting up with her. She refuses to see a doctor, smokes all day long even though I have asthma and can't breathe because of the smoke, and does nothing but eat potato chips all day long. She will have an accident in the bathroom but won't tell me about it, so I won't know until I go in there and see the mess. Her mind is still pretty sharp so there is no dementia involved as much as I can tell, she has just decided since she is retired she doesn't have to do anything. I have not been able to get her to bathe, washer her hair, face or body in well over a year. It is dealing with that all day long that has me so fried I can't think straight. I don't know how to take care of myself anymore and can't see any future beyond tomorrow. I used to be a pretty creative person but now I look at everything with dull eyes. Part of my history is I have been a caregiver to 4 different family members over the past 8 years, starting with my mother in-law, husband, my son and now her. I am on a very limited budget and can't afford any medical care for myself. Is there any advice anybody can give me?