My mother past away a year ago very unexpected she was my best friend and she was my grandfathers only caregiver she lived with him . I was staying with him at the time my mother past because he can't be alone and now my husband and three children have moved in to take care of him also even though I have a home . We sleep on couches we don't have dressers my sons are constantly staying in the finished basement because they have no where to go In The house . My grandfather is 94 he is with it sometimes he walks with a cane but sometimes I think he thinks I'm not married I don't have three kids I dont have a house I don't know what he thinks he calls me my mother.he does need help with showering and hygiene It's been hard the family his other children don't help they don't want anything to do with him . I love him I don't want to put him in a home but I do t know how much longer I can do this. I miss my mother I still have to deal with that grief My children are miserable I need help advice a miracle .