My mother 87 years old I admit there is a dementia issue and agree she needs the medication. However her mindset of behavorial problems my brother and i see different.
How to make a long story short.........
2 weeks back my mother gave my brother a diamond and gold ring to be assessed for value for insurance purposes she also mentioned that perhaps she would like to sell the ring, the family thinks the ring should be kept in the family as it is a family heirloom with diamonds from grandmother and great grandmother with the diamonds being over 100 years old. The value is not an issue just the family history.
My brother decided just to hold on to the ring my mother got very mad and decided that she wanted the ring back, due to the fact bro is about an hour away from moms we decided it best to bring out ring on their next trip out our way, mom has seemed to lost sensitivity to time and when she wants she wants now, so the 1 week wait to get ring only intesified her anger and she was blaming my bro that he was trying to steal the ring or take out the diamonds. the short of it she got her ring back is happy to have it back but still very mad at as she puts it her a**hole son, has no other problems with any other family she is forgetful of pass events and history but is very well kept with the upkeep of herself and her apt. my delima,,,,,
Today we have a careworker coming in to evaluate her I and my sis in law will be there with her, my brother wants to come in to appt after the worker has arrived, this will put my mom into a trirate and the behavorial problems will be front and center of the evaluation well i agree that this needs some addressing but dont feel it is fair to bring in the one and only thing that will put her into flying off the handle, not giving her a fair evaluation of her situation I would like to see this as being a fair evaluation of her not her aggression my brother see this as they way to bring out the worst in her and that is what should be seen i think perhaps this should be done in 2 stages perhaps 2 different visits
I want to tell my mom that bro is going to make an appearance and let her know to control her anger prove him wrong but am i being shelfish in trying to hide this behaviour and give her the opportunity to let her medication work she has only been on it for 6 days outside of this anger issue all other aspects of her life in routine daily care of herself is good