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I remember joining this forum when my mom progressed. She passed the 24th, at home, with me and her aide telling her it was okay to let go. I know where she landed and I know she’s with me, but the world just looks so different without her. I think about the phases we went thru as her dementia progressed, I think about how I often called her my oldest child. I’m grateful for her not being in any pain or confusion anymore. But I also just miss my mommy before the disease, I wish I appreciated the moments that became memories a bit more.

My mom and brother have been gone for 5 years now. Often I find myself thinking, "I have to call and tell her/him this happened ", and then catch myself. Every now and then, I hear someone's cellphone using the same ringtone that I used for my brother and it makes my heart skip a beat. There are so many things about the older generation that I wish I had asked Mom about and then written it down. But, I am able to cope better as time goes on. Your heart will always yearn for your LO, but you will be able to deal with it better and better. Just breathe.
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You have memories and with your loss they become stronger. I don't think it's as much of being weird as you are mourning for her and you. It takes time to adjust, I have a picture of my mom in my car and I talk to her, it's been two years since she passed. There will always be a piece of them wherever you are and whatever you do. It can get lonely but remember that you're not alone as long as they're in your heart. 🥰
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Don't think of the last few years. Think of the good times. Because of a friend, who spent a lot of time at my house growing up, reminding me how Mom was with my friends it brought me out of that slump.
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I am so sorry for your loss. Your world is definitely different without her being physically present with you. Take your time as your process and walk thru your grief. I lost my mom 17 years ago, and I can tell you that while I still miss her, that painful ache of her sudden absence has subsided. Like another forum member often says....prayers forthcoming for you❤️
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