She is mostly uncooperative. She refuses any help in house. She expects her two daughters to do everything for her although when asked she gives "lip service" to I know you can't do it all.. Well since she refuses to let anyone else address it, we are left to do it all. She lives alone and wants to move in with my husband. We are in our late 50s and close to retiring and downsizing to a smaller home. My husband has said "no way"! I understand and share his feelings. She has financial resources but refuses to spend them. I even have to plead with her to buy appropriate food and medicine. When we go to the Dr. she denies all of this and puts on her jovial, pleasant, personality. I'm so frustrated with her most of the time. It's basically ruining my life. I love her and want her to be happy but she has openly said that only living with me in my living room and having me tuck her in every night will make her happy. She can still handle money, bills and shopping with assistance. The problems I see her having seem like age-related decline (she is 90) but not sure you could call it dementia. How do you know? She will absolutely REFUSE to any evaluation by a psych. The primary care just keeps saying she is fine. SHE IS NOT FINE. WE ARE NOT FINE. No one will listen. I'm at my wits end. FYI-I've been doing this for 10 years. 6 years since my dad died 4 years before due to his lack of driving.