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You really need to contact APS, they are robbing her and have enslaved you.

This situation is wrong on so many levels it's mind boggling.

If she has dementia, I don't believe that she can legally sign any documents.

I get that you care about this woman, but you really need to get the authorities involved to actually protect her.

Sometimes families are disgusting and it sounds like this is one of those times.
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Yes, this is illegal to expect one person, not family, to care for someone 24/7. Like said, you cannot make decisions regarding this man. His family needs to get involved. Have you tried to call the family? If you cannot contact them then call APS, Adult Protection Services.
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Call the labor board, what her family is doing to you is illegal.

But they are getting away with it because you aren't contacting the authorities and filing a complaint.

Did you get anything in writing when you took this position, I mean you say it was supposed to be overnight and instantly became 24/7, what did you do at that point?

You are basically being used as a slave.
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EstelleS Apr 19, 2019
Nothing was put in writing. I'm so dumb....i just can't believe I'm in this position. But besides not getting paid what I'm worth here, and having no life, because im working 24/7... there's this moral issue...shes only got me. They don't care. I've seen the way they treat her, and talk to her....its unbelievable. The son that has POS told her this was no longer her house, it was his now. He made her sign the title of the Monte Carlo over to him...as she looked to me for help. OMG...i mean what will happen to her...if they fire me???
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You really need to make the family step up and get involved with her care.

You have no authority and all the responsibility, if something happened to her under your watch, you can bet that the family will hold you accountable and responsible. Being a 24/7 live in doesn't give you the right to find other programs or alternative care. You probably couldn't get her in even if you found something, you can't legally sign anything for her.

Is there more to the story you want to share?
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EstelleS Apr 18, 2019
I I don't know what you mean by is there more I want to share No there isn't this is a very sad case of I took this job on a part-time basis for the night position immediately they fired the full-time position and put me into the position of living full-time couple months later the old guy falls and goes to round-the-clock care Hospice he passes away about a month ago and I am left with the mom since the passing of the dad no one comes around I haven't even received a phone call in two and a half weeks it's so sad and it's so awful for her offer for my dog as well she is an emotional support dog and I had to take her to the vet and get her put on meds because she bonded so closely with the dad that she is extremely depressed like all of us here
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Medicaid will fund Daycare depending on income. They may pay the full amt or sliding scale. Mom lived with me but they would have considered her income not mine. Not sure how that would work for a married couple.
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Isthisrealyreal Apr 17, 2019
JoAnn, It's not a couple, it's the remaining spouse and this is a caregiver looking for alternative care for her client.
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https://npidb.org/organizations/agencies/program-of-all-inclusive-care-for-the-elderly-pace-provider-organization_251t00000x/az/
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There has to be a financial need. Family not wanting to spend the money doesn't qualify.

If you are being exploited by your employer, you need to have a meeting and get them to step up and get you some help, by law they have to give you days off and time off between shifts.
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EstelleS Apr 18, 2019
, and how exactly would I go about that I mean you say it's against the law by law they have to give me time off days off and time off between shifts well there's only one shift here it's to call 24/7 I'm here all the time I take Miss L with me if I need to go shopping I take Miss Lwith me if I have anything else to do in my opinion the rest of the family is too busy collecting life insurance policies to even give a care what is happening over here it gets worse I just haven't shared the entire story when I was offered this position it was room and board I was told they would pay for food for me as well well that is not the case it has become customary for me to buy food which she doesn't eat hardly anything she's very picky eater and I am constantly trying to get her to eat nutritious food in my opinion the rest of the family is too busy collecting life insurance policies to even give a care what is happening over here they gets worse I just haven't shared the entire story when I was offered this position it was rooming bored I was told they would pay for food for me as well well that is not the case it has become customary for me to buy food which she doesn't eat hardly anything she's a very picky eater and I am constantly trying to get her to eat nutritious food she wants to live on ice cream and pancakes now that I'm buying food for both myself and mrs. L it looks like I'm going to have to buy briefs wipes basically house supplies because no one has come with those and they know we need them
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