My parents are both now gone. My husband and I lived with and cared for my dad for over 5 years, after my mom passed. He basically begged us to move in. Hindsight? Not the best move but what’s done is done. I had 2 sisters but one died in her 30’s so it’s just me and 1 sister now. We are now trying to fairly divide up the “stuff”. We sold my parents house, she actually bought us out of our half. Which was fine, but then she basically shoved us out in a huge rush in a lousy real estate market, so I’m angry over that. Now she keeps pestering me to come over and go through all the other “stuff”… I want to scream at her “where were you the last 5 years when I was dealing with everything??” Oh yeah, she moved out of state right after my Mom died, and she came twice in 5 years to stay with dad so we could take a vacation. I haven’t even gotten moved into my new house, and to be honest I don’t care at all that she can’t park her car in her garage because of all our parents’ stuff in there! I feel
like I don’t care if I ever see her again, but I know I don’t really think that … somewhere deep down. I’m truly struggling. Then with the stuff - we aren’t seeing eye to eye, and I don’t want to fight over “things” but I find it’s all dredging up years of anger and frustration with her! Maybe I just need to see a counselor?